Thursday, May 23, 2013

When Old Meets New

In one corner, you have the family you've known your whole life.  In the other corner, you have the family you have made for yourself at some point along the way.  Including the most recent and tiniest member. 

When these two groups of people came together, when three generations met for the very first time, it felt like I'd found the final puzzle pieces I always knew I was missing.  Still, there was an overwhelming sense of completion that I never expected to feel.  Layers of happiness and satisfaction revealed themselves in rapid succession.  Fortunately I was ready and prepared to feel emotions on a high level.  Just nowhere near THAT level.

I'll never, ever forget the moment the Jefferson Four stepped into that hospital room at Fairview Ridges Hospital and met my son for the first time.  These people who had meant more than anything to me for almost all of my days said hello to this boy who just one day earlier had assumed that role.  Grandpa and Pa, Unc and Auntie all took their turns holding the newest Jefferson.  Gazing at him in awe and wonder.  Inevitably experiencing at least passing moments of disbelief that their son/brother had managed to make this all happen.






But somewhere in there is this:  I don't care who you are, where you've been or what you do.  Creating a life tops it all.  Becoming a parent to another human being is the greatest thing there is.

And when you can do it alongside an constantly astounding wife with the never ending support of a loving family?

That's my own personal heaven.  And I believe...

Sunday, April 21, 2013

So this is parenting...



I don't think adrenaline kicks in quite as often as people think it does.  But we certainly pulled the adrenaline card multiple times over the course of parenthood's first days.  It was like eating your meal in different parts, a few bites here and a few bites there over the course of a day and ultimately you've cleaned your plate.  But it's not the same as eating it all in one sitting.

I think the key word to describe the first few weeks of Reese's life \was gazing.  There was a lot of gazing going on.  Mostly in wonder that we had created this little (sort of) living human being out of thin air.  He was nothing but a hope and a wish.  And now he was actually there in front of us.  Alive.  Well.  Our child.

I know people say that you should catch up on sleep when your baby sleeps.  It's a good idea in theory.  The issue is that he is so absurdly peaceful and innocent that putting him down is a tall order.  Kelly and I suck at it. 

"We should probably lay him down"
"Yeah... I don't really want to though."


That conversation or something similar to it went down every day.  Most of the time we just tried catching a few winks while he was laying on us.  Sleep was sacrificed.  Gazing opportunities were increased.  I think we all won.

Introducing Reese to the world, mostly family and friends, was maybe the proudest moment of my life. When we went to Allianz to take him around, Kelly said my chest was puffed out like she's never seen it before.  I guess I had the proud papa syndrome going right away.  But I don't blame myself for getting caught up in the moment one bit.  Call it cheesy.  Call it corny.  Call it cliche'.  This IS the coolest thing ever.

And I understand it only gets better....

Sunday, January 6, 2013

Spreading the News

After joyfully and tearfully sharing the news of Reese's arrival into the world with my mom, dad, brother and sister, I sent text message to four different sets of my closest people.  This is what I said:

"He's here!  9 lbs. 3 ounces and the cutest freaking thing ever. Life is beautiful"

"Our boy has arrived!! Reese Francis Jefferson.  Long day, giant head. Best thing ever.  Everyone is great.  Much love"

"Our boy is here.  Reese Francis Jefferson. Long day.  Could not possibly be any happier.  Everyone is great.  All the love"

"He is here! Reese Francis Jefferson.  So amazing! Everyone is fantastic!"


And this is what they said:

"Dece! Congrats guys.  You all rule.  Can't wait to meet the new fam!"

"Congratulations Adam. This is most excellent news and a joy you both deserve enormously.  Beautiful name, thanks for the update.  Love you guys"

"I love him already. Not gonna lie that picture choked me up quite a bit."

"Congrats, love you guys...I was passed out last night"

"OMG he is perfect!!!

"Congratulations! So happy for you guys! Love the name!"

"Oh!  So awesome! Love the name! So freaking happy for all three of you! Love!"

"Love it! So incredibly happy for you guys! Reese, great name! Lots of love to you guys! And it's about time! Another hug to Kelly please.  Can't wait to to hear the story of his arrival."

"Congrats! Give him a kiss for me! Hope Kelly is resting! Can't wait to meet him!"

"YAY!! Love the name!  Reese!  Congratulations! All go ok?  Send pics if you have the energy!!

"Awwww he is perfect!!"

"Yes! Amazing and congratulations! I wish you all health and happiness.  Jefferson clan continues its expansion!"


In my mind, through all the love and warmth that came shining through in those responses, I kept thinking the same thing:

Just wait until you meet him.